Here is a video on the importance of a morning routine and what my routine is:
If you are feeling dry and stale or thinking that your life is nothing but drudgery, a great question to ask is,
"Where is my heart?"
When you disconnect what you do with purpose, your senses or joy, you dry out.
Does your work feel like nothing but to dos that you don’t want to do? If you are working, you must be serving someone or no one would pay you. Who are you serving? Whose life are you making better?
If you don’t like working where you are right now, how can you bring more fun or beauty into your work? Can you organize your space? Can you put something beautiful in the space? Can you wear ear plugs to drown out annoying noise? Maybe you need an aromatherapy pillow. Can you notice how your character is improving in this situation or notice where you are growing?
If you are parenting, do you remember you are trying to bring up kids of character and responsibility? Or just remembering that they are being a real pain right now? Seeing how you want them to turn out pulls you from the daily taking care of kids. You can also try taking part of the parenting time to relax and play with them. So it’s not all work for you or them.
When you do housework are you focused only on, "I have to do dishes AGAIN?" or do you see the outcome of the clean kitchen. Do you think of how you are nurturing you and your family? Or enjoying creating beauty? You can allow yourself to gaze for a second or two in appreciate of the newly polished kitchen table. Using natural cleansers with pleasant scents makes cleaning more enjoyable. As does music.
As you go throughout your day, keep asking, "Where is my heart?" Bring joy, beauty or purpose to whatever you do.
Then see if your life is juicier.
If you need help finding the time or losing the guilt for self-care, join my Simple Self Care class – starts July 14th.
Photo by Mauro Cateb
Sports equipment is not nice a uniform. Often there are balls rolling around. It’s not an easy thing to organize.
Here are some visuals for you:
Ski and other boots:
Balls on Walls:
Have sports, will travel:
For the golfers:
Pictures taken by my daughter, Brea Dargis. She also had fun putting together a compilation of the bird dancing around on the lily pad.
The sky was cloudy, but the weather site said it wasn’t going to rain. I double checked Facebook looking for a cancellation. Yoga at the Beach was still one. Yea!
I probably wouldn’t get up early on the weekend for regular yoga. But, yoga on the shores of Lake Michigan lures me to exercise.
I park and walk to the canal where people are setting up. The wind is so strong it’s hard to get the yoga mats to stay put. Some of us were laughing and others growl in frustration.
We start with easy poses to warm up, feeling the moist air touching our skin. Our tree pose was more like "Tree swaying in the wind" pose.
A little less than half-way through it starts to sprinkle. Moments later is starts to pour as I try to cover my keys from my lunge position. We get out of lunge and greet the sky with hands raised and face upturned, accepting the rain.
We almost packed it in, but the rain slowed down. Our instructor said she would be here teaching if we would stay. A few people ran for their cars, the class ruined for them.
How many times do we do this? Things don’t go how we think they are supposed to go so we complain, try to fix things or run away. Daily I would think.
I was already wet so I stayed as we finished our standing poses. Our mats got too slippery to keep us stable so we moved to sitting and laying poses.
In one pose I was on my back holding my right knee into my chest. The rain became stronger falling all over my face. I started to become very uncomfortable. To calm down, I focused on how it felt with my senses. The water drops on my cheeks. Wet hair on my forehead. The waves in the water. I turned off my mind thinking, "This is bad." I let go of the story that yoga at the beach has to be sunny, cool and beautiful every time.
The rain wasn’t bad, it was just wet.
When we have obstacles in our life, most of the time we don’t know if what is happening is good or bad not knowing the big picture.
I breathed, relaxed and felt the wetness on my face. The rain felt refreshing once I stopped thinking of rain as bad.
Life throws undesirable circumstances at us all the time. This is why we need to be able to keep our center within us.
We can stay calm and relaxed this way in the midst of mornings with the kids helping them get ready, or in slow traffic or when sprinklers come on during your party in the park.
Peace is inside. If you take yourself out of your thoughts, stories and judgments, instead feel your physical sensations and notice what’s around you, you can find that place of centered peace again. Breathing deeply helps.
The rain stopped as yoga ended. I walked the pier and watched with fascination at the wind surfers. I would have missed this beautiful sight if I had left earlier.
Today as you face things, see if you can find your center of peace.
I was just finishing up my last declutter chat when I felt something swoop over my head and flutter around in the corner in front of me. I screamed and ran into the bedroom, waking my sleeping husband who had to be up at 4:30am the next morning as usual. “There’s a bat or a bird or something in my office!”
He grudgingly got out of bed, walked to my office and said, “Yep, it’s a bat.” I slammed the bedroom door shut. He said, “What are you doing? Grab me a blanket so I can watch the bat.”
I snuck out, keeping an eye on the bat as I grabbed about 4 blankets. I started to hand them to my husband when the bat started flying our way. I screeched, throwing the blankets up as they landed on our heads. Jeff uncovers and I ran back into the bedroom.
Now he is annoyed because he lost the bat when I covered him with a blanket. He is searching for the bat while I am hiding in the bedroom.
With the bat.
I heard a flutter on the dresser and ran out screaming, “It’s on your dresser, it’s on your dresser!”
I ran to the bathroom and shut the door. Jeff captures the bat in a blanket and yells for me to open the door to the outside. I kind of open the door to the porch to let him and the bat out. The outside door screen door I swung open and rushed back in. Jeff lets the bat out, getting hit with the door as it swung back closed.
He mentioned next time it might be helpful to shut all the open inside doors and open the outside door so the bat could get out. He also mentioned I was not very helpful throughout the ordeal.
Often this is how we live life. Our adrenaline is high while we are rushing about trying to do urgent things. Our mind is going in a million directions. The fear of not being or doing enough is flapping about. This reptile brain does not make the best decisions.
Try calming and centering yourself in the morning with breathing, writing or praying. Then plan your day.
Throughout the day you can pause between tasks, breathe and checkin with yourself before deciding on the next task. Making the decisions from your calmer, conscious self will allow you to stop your frantic living.
You don’t want to live like a bat is following you around.
Here is a video I put together to show my method for finding what to wear today. I apologize for the times I thought I was showing you something but the video was off. Still getting used to taking videos.
This method involves using catalogs as jumping off points to figuring out what to wear. I didn’t mention in the video that if you have a specific event and already know what you want to wear – go with it. Often the outfit I end up with looks nothing like the catalog, but I’ve usually used something from the picture whether it’s a color or type of clothing like a skirt. The catalog is just the catalyst for my creativity making it faster to pick out clothes.
You also get a look at my little closet. I’ve had to cull my wardrobe so it only has colors that look good on me with styles and fit that work best with my body type and personality.
Glad to see a great group for the finance class starting Monday.
I was sick with that cold most of the week, but started feeling better this weekend. My husband and I went over to Gun Lake where we went to the recreation area and waded in the lake. Today after dropping my daughter at work I went to the beach for a bit. I wanted to be outside as much as possible because I didn’t get out much this week. So I’ve been alternating house tasks like laundry and grocery shopping with reading outside.
- Do your summer planning (or winter for the other hemisphere.)
- Use the program, Freedom to block the internet so you can get things done.
- How good is your multi-tasking? Count to 10. Now recite the alphabet A-J. Now alternate. Most people take much longer when they alternate.
- Read something deeply instead of skimming.
- Think about where you give away your decision making power. Do you always say, "Wherever" or "Whatever?"
- Put a project on hold for the next couple months, so you can be outside more.
- 5 drops of lavender oil mixed with distilled water in one of those little glass bottles makes a blissfully smelling toner.
Attention: Overwhelmed individuals whose financial lives seem out of control
This course will help you create easy-to-maintain systems for your finances. Class starts June 9th.
This class will help you:
- get your finances in order
- start saving
- create a plan to get out of debt
- consolidate, automate and simplify your system
- create a simple spending plan
Each class will bring you closer to financial integrity. And you’ll find you are not alone.
I heard the phrase, "The way you do anything is the way you do everything." Your character shows in how you do the small things and the big things. How you handle one situation is probably similar to how you handle other situations. If you are late to some things you are probably late to most of them.
It also includes driving. Do you drive impatiently, in a hurry, annoyed if anyone around you is going the speed limit? Where else, might you be impatient and in a hurry? For me, I will go around the block to make a right turn if I know that making a left will be difficult. Being sensitive, I think ahead to how I can avoid as much stress as possible.
Do you honk quickly or almost never? Are you law-abiding, but only if you see a police officer around? Do you race around parking lots or park as far from the entrance as possible? If someone cuts you off are you likely to be aggressive back? Or maybe just passive aggressive?
Think back to your driving the past few weeks. What has your driving shown you? Anything you’d like to change?
The weather was warming up and I had all the windows down and my sunroof open. I was singing along to the radio. A song came on that I liked but was not a "cool" song and is a little embarrassing.
I looked around and started to change the radio. Before I changed channels, my inner wisdom said, "Really, you are going to turn off a song you like, because people you don’t know, might judge your song?"
I kept the song on and sang it loud and proud.
How many times a day do we allow other people’s judgments decide how we will live our life? Would you have rather worn a bright top today? Did you read the latest "must read" book all the way through so you could keep up with the talk, even though you hated it?
Foods you eat, committees you are on, that art on your walls – how many are based on what "they" might think.
Notice today when you are stopping yourself from living authentically so you won’t be judged by "them."