Comments on: Are You Afraid of Making the Wrong Decision? http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision Encouraging you in creating a saner, simpler life Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:39:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Beth Dargis http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-165503 Beth Dargis Wed, 25 May 2011 18:05:21 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-165503 I agree with Gillian, Lily. Keep trying stuff during your leisure time and maybe you'll find something(s) that sing to you to do when the kids are out of the house. Or as a side job that can grow into a career. Or that just lights you up outside of work hours. And you can always find positives in the work you are doing and how you are helping others even if it's not your ideal work. I agree with Gillian, Lily. Keep trying stuff during your leisure time and maybe you’ll find something(s) that sing to you to do when the kids are out of the house. Or as a side job that can grow into a career. Or that just lights you up outside of work hours. And you can always find positives in the work you are doing and how you are helping others even if it’s not your ideal work.

]]> By: Gillian http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-164467 Gillian Mon, 23 May 2011 10:12:42 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-164467 Hi Lily, please don't be so discouraged. Many people change their careers at your age too. But perhaps you don't need to change your career. You are currently investing in a degree, and it will help you with your work. Perhaps the 'ideal' is to have a job that one is passionate about, but the reality is that many people find their fulfillment in other areas. Can you find your fulfillment after hours in writing poetry or a screenplay, or a blog, cooking or with your family? Most people, however much they enjoy their work have days where 'it's just a job'. I also know some artistic types and it can be stressful for them to 'be creative' to a schedule. For myself, when work just feels like work it helps that I'm involved in things outside of it and have an art class I go to weekly. Perhaps give yourself permission to just try a few things out, and have some time weekly specifically doing something you enjoy. Hi Lily, please don’t be so discouraged. Many people change their careers at your age too. But perhaps you don’t need to change your career. You are currently investing in a degree, and it will help you with your work. Perhaps the ‘ideal’ is to have a job that one is passionate about, but the reality is that many people find their fulfillment in other areas. Can you find your fulfillment after hours in writing poetry or a screenplay, or a blog, cooking or with your family? Most people, however much they enjoy their work have days where ‘it’s just a job’. I also know some artistic types and it can be stressful for them to ‘be creative’ to a schedule. For myself, when work just feels like work it helps that I’m involved in things outside of it and have an art class I go to weekly. Perhaps give yourself permission to just try a few things out, and have some time weekly specifically doing something you enjoy.

]]> By: Lily http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-163491 Lily Fri, 20 May 2011 14:26:47 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-163491 I wish that I could have followed the advice of choosing to make a decision even if it turns out to be wrong. I was one of those people with a lot of interests but not any real passions. No clear direction that I knew I wanted to take my life. I procrastinated starting college because I hoped that 'the answer' to what I should be would come to me. I hated the jobs I could get, so I did actually go to college for about a year, taking some basic stuff and trying out a possible career path. I got disappointed and burned out trying to work full time and go to college full time, and not sure what I wanted anyway, I chose the priority of work. Besides, I was pretty, so surely I'd find a good husband to take care of me. None of that happened. I am now in my 40s, stuck in a field that my mother enjoyed simply because she was there to teach me bookkeeping. I am a creative person, not a logic-numbers person, but have yet to discover 'the answer' for my purpose. Now it is too late to do anything different. I'm a single parent and can't afford to start a new career path. So instead I'm stuck completing an accounting degree that I really don't feel passionate about, simply for the money. It sucks. I wish when I was younger that I'd have known I'd never hear that voice that said 'become this' and that I'd just chosen something: writing, music, television, graphic design... anything remotely in my creative nature. I waited to make a decsion. Now the decision is made for me. I've wasted most of my life and what is left, at least career-wise, is no more than an empty pursuit of income. I wish that I could have followed the advice of choosing to make a decision even if it turns out to be wrong. I was one of those people with a lot of interests but not any real passions. No clear direction that I knew I wanted to take my life. I procrastinated starting college because I hoped that ‘the answer’ to what I should be would come to me. I hated the jobs I could get, so I did actually go to college for about a year, taking some basic stuff and trying out a possible career path. I got disappointed and burned out trying to work full time and go to college full time, and not sure what I wanted anyway, I chose the priority of work. Besides, I was pretty, so surely I’d find a good husband to take care of me. None of that happened. I am now in my 40s, stuck in a field that my mother enjoyed simply because she was there to teach me bookkeeping. I am a creative person, not a logic-numbers person, but have yet to discover ‘the answer’ for my purpose. Now it is too late to do anything different. I’m a single parent and can’t afford to start a new career path. So instead I’m stuck completing an accounting degree that I really don’t feel passionate about, simply for the money. It sucks. I wish when I was younger that I’d have known I’d never hear that voice that said ‘become this’ and that I’d just chosen something: writing, music, television, graphic design… anything remotely in my creative nature. I waited to make a decsion. Now the decision is made for me. I’ve wasted most of my life and what is left, at least career-wise, is no more than an empty pursuit of income.

]]> By: Karen http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-120509 Karen Tue, 22 Feb 2011 21:09:48 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-120509 I agree with Steve, the older I get, the harder it gets. I am to the point that I struggle with the most insignificant decisions. I really thought that it would get better with age, but it’s not! It's awful, now I worry that I will spend my old age not being able to enjoy anything! I agree with Steve, the older I get, the harder it gets. I am to the point that I struggle with the most insignificant decisions. I really thought that it would get better with age, but it’s not!
It’s awful, now I worry that I will spend my old age not being able to enjoy anything!

]]> By: Ginny http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-43223 Ginny Sat, 31 Oct 2009 13:54:50 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-43223 I made a very wrong decision about my career,.. :( I made a very wrong decision about my career,.. :(

]]> By: Steve http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-36505 Steve Sun, 05 Apr 2009 21:30:11 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-36505 All those points are good ones she makes. However another problem is I notice for me is that as I get older and time becomes less and less that the pressure to make the right decision the first time grows. So the room to fix mistakes deminishes if a wrong choice is made, so taking chances gets more difficult. How does one put in perspective the continual loss of time. I am middle aged. We only have one life to live. If that life is wasted how can you face death at the end. All those points are good ones she makes. However another problem is I notice for me is that as I get older and time becomes less and less that the pressure to make the right decision the first time grows. So the room to fix mistakes deminishes if a wrong choice is made, so taking chances gets more difficult. How does one put in perspective the continual loss of time. I am middle aged. We only have one life to live. If that life is wasted how can you face death at the end.

]]> By: Ruth http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-25151 Ruth Mon, 02 Jun 2008 01:44:20 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-25151 I like the way you think. :) I know for me that I agonize over every little decision, and it makes me realize that life would be so much simpler if I'd just decide to go with my first instincts. I've been reading this really cool book by <a href="http://www.livewhatyoulove.com/meet-bob-and-mel/" rel="nofollow">Bob and Melinda Blanchard</a> about making life changes and nothing really gets done until you make a decision first. I like the way you think. :) I know for me that I agonize over every little decision, and it makes me realize that life would be so much simpler if I’d just decide to go with my first instincts. I’ve been reading this really cool book by Bob and Melinda Blanchard about making life changes and nothing really gets done until you make a decision first.

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]]> By: Meme http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-24881 Meme Mon, 26 May 2008 01:03:45 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-24881 I have often thought along these lines but have never explored it enough to give my self help to move on- I usually use the words ''unsure'' what to do with it so generally end up doing nothing but keeping it - I will have to work on this area this week- huggs Meme I have often thought along these lines but have never explored it enough to give my self help to move on- I usually use the words ”unsure” what to do with it so generally end up doing nothing but keeping it – I will have to work on this area this week-
huggs Meme

]]> By: Audrey http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/are-you-afraid-of-making-the-wrong-decision/comment-page-1#comment-24753 Audrey Thu, 22 May 2008 17:04:17 +0000 http://www.mysimplerlife.com/blog/?p=1140#comment-24753 I found you through MommyFest. Even though it’s long over, I’m still reading blogs, meeting others and enjoying the blogs I’m finding. I love your post. I'm huge on making decisions. Every day, we get to decide so many things. I tell my kids quite often "choose again". Not every choice will be the perfect choice, so choose again. Awesome blog post. I found you through MommyFest. Even though it’s long over, I’m still reading blogs, meeting others and enjoying the blogs I’m finding.

I love your post. I’m huge on making decisions. Every day, we get to decide so many things. I tell my kids quite often “choose again”. Not every choice will be the perfect choice, so choose again. Awesome blog post.

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