First Published at Meditate Like a Girl.
Is your resolution list the same as last year? The same as five years ago? Perhaps your goals aren’t what you really want.
Instead of looking towards what we want, we are resolute in what we should want. “I will lose 20 pounds.” I will wake up at 5:45 am every day. I will save money. I will declutter every inch of my home.
Instead of losing weight, maybe what you really want is to give your soul a place to experience life or have your insides match your outside.
It may not be an organized home you are longing for. It may be a feeling of peace or even self-compassion with yourself when you can’t get it all done.
Maybe instead of getting out of debt, you uncover why you are in debt in the first place. What longing might be hiding under over-spending?
What if you really didn’t want to learn a foreign language? Maybe voice lessons would light you up instead.
Maybe this year you don’t want to do anything extra at all. You might not want to go on a self-improvement kick. This might be the year you simplify or make peace with the present or learn to love yourself as you are.
So put down the January magazines that will tell you all you need to do to be the perfect you in 2014. Hold off on reading blogs. Wait to buy those self-help books from Amazon. Don’t read the "Before You Die" books.
Before you put store in other people’s words about what you should do this year, tune into yourself.
This isn’t a race to see who can get their insights first. You don’t have to get it all right now. Plans from your soul usually come out in bits and pieces, not a huge epiphany. Keep getting quiet until you can hear what your soul is longing for. Then continue every day.
What do you really desire? What don’t you want to have to do anymore? What do you want to feel? What are you tired of feeling? What sounds fun? What makes you smile? What acts of service does your heart want? What sounds scary and exciting at the same time?
Only you and your soul can answer these questions. So, get quiet.