I created a workbook to help you make time for fun and self-care. You can learn more here.
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I created a workbook to help you make time for fun and self-care. You can learn more here.
I used to have a Self-Care schedule.
Sundays – nails
Mondays – deep condition hair
Tuesdays – exfoliate
Wednesday – Alpha Hydroxy arms
Thursday – face mask
Friday – Use Back Buddy
Saturday – Candlelight shower
That worked well for many years. Now however I have to use the heavy duty dye for my hair that takes 25-30 minutes instead of the quick color. So now I have a monthly spa day instead so I can use that tedious waiting time.
I bring in music (no candles as I am mixing chemicals.)
Hair dye for my hair.
Take off pedicure polish and clip nails.
Wash, exfoliate and use a sensitive skin peel. I also exfoliate and peel a couple times a week.
Time to shower and rinse hair dye. I also do a good shave instead of my normal quick shave below the knees while my deep conditioner is working. I use my pumice stone on my heels.
After I dry off I put on heavy duty moisturizer that smells like lavendar instead of my Neutrogena body oil and moisturize my face.
I put on my cozy, dark blue robe and give myself a pedicure while watching something good.
Sometimes I’ll use a heating pad while my toenails dry.
Lastly I use my Back Buddy.
Doing all my monthly beauty rituals at once saves me time and saves me having to remember to do it all throughout the month. (I post a checklist inside my bathroom cabinet.)
I schedule my next Spa Day as soon as I complete one.
If you are feeling dry and stale or thinking that your life is nothing but drudgery, a great question to ask is,
When you disconnect what you do with purpose, your senses or joy, you dry out.
Does your work feel like nothing but to dos that you don’t want to do? If you are working, you must be serving someone or no one would pay you. Who are you serving? Whose life are you making better?
If you don’t like working where you are right now, how can you bring more fun or beauty into your work? Can you organize your space? Can you put something beautiful in the space? Can you wear ear plugs to drown out annoying noise? Maybe you need an aromatherapy pillow. Can you notice how your character is improving in this situation or notice where you are growing?
If you are parenting, do you remember you are trying to bring up kids of character and responsibility? Or just remembering that they are being a real pain right now? Seeing how you want them to turn out pulls you from the daily taking care of kids. You can also try taking part of the parenting time to relax and play with them. So it’s not all work for you or them.
When you do housework are you focused only on, "I have to do dishes AGAIN?" or do you see the outcome of the clean kitchen. Do you think of how you are nurturing you and your family? Or enjoying creating beauty? You can allow yourself to gaze for a second or two in appreciate of the newly polished kitchen table. Using natural cleansers with pleasant scents makes cleaning more enjoyable. As does music.
As you go throughout your day, keep asking, "Where is my heart?" Bring joy, beauty or purpose to whatever you do.
Then see if your life is juicier.
If you need help finding the time or losing the guilt for self-care, join my Simple Self Care class – starts July 14th.
Many women say they have no time at all for self-care. If you are one of them, start with taking at least 5 minutes every day for yourself. You can…
What would you like to do to refresh yourself this week?
I went to the beach this morning by myself. All week I have been longing to go to the beach. But there didn’t seem to be time and it’s a pain to gather everything needed and the drive is about 25 minutes. This morning I wasn’t going to make any more excuses. I got ready in about 5 minutes and drove to the beach. I walked the beach, did some swimming and read by the channel the boats go down. I really enjoyed myself. I felt renewed.
See, the beach was something my son and I did together. Usually weekly during the summer. My husband and daughter sneeze at the sun and don’t like being hot. This is the first year I decided it’s OK to go to the beach just for myself.
We work hard at our jobs and taking care of friends and family. We will sleep less, over-volunteer and stop what we are doing for a friend. But, we aren’t willing to do a little work for something that will bring us joy.
We all get these little longings and desires for something that we know would make us feel happy. Then we start making the excuses for why it’s too hard to make it happen. Especially if it’s just for us.
I had to get over that guilty resistance and pack my bag. I had to get over my, "I don’t want to make the drive." Once I got there I had the best time. I had energy for the rest of the day and I was in a good mood.
This week, listen for those little longings and make one happen.
When it becomes busy time, self-care is usually the first thing to go. This is one of those busy times for most people. So by the time the holiday comes, we are tired or sick. Or Grinch-like.
I know I’ve been sick on quite a few holidays. Simplifying Christmas has been so helpful for lessening the stress.
And this year, I decided instead of lessening my self-care, I would amp it up.
I paid for a punch card at our local community recreation to incentivise making it to exercise classes. I only have so much time to use up those punches or I lose money. I’ve been making it about three times a week. I am having so much fun with Zumba. Exercise is a great stress reliever. Then I do weights and yoga at home other days. If you don’t have that much time you can fit in these mostly 15 min. workouts: http://www.youtube.com/befit
I am also letting myself sleep as long as I need to until I wake up naturally. I get more done when well rested. If you can’t sleep in longer due to kids or work, you can go to bed earlier or take a nap.
My goal is to eat 7 fruits and vegetables a day. At least 3, I get through a morning homemade smoothie.
Other ways to add self-care to the holiday season:
The lies we tell ourselves are we don’t have time, it all HAS to be done, and we can’t take time for ourselves. But, we can take care of ourselves, enjoy the holiday and get things done. We get to choose what it is that we want.
If you want to take care of yourself, you will have to plan for it. Otherwise it probably isn’t happening.
That was written over 50 years ago and it’s even more true now. Because of the noise and non-stop go, go, go our souls feel anxious. So we stuff that anxiety into more things. Distracting with more work, more volunteering, more entertainment, more social engagements.
Which only makes us feel more rattled. It’s like a double shot espresso to calm your nerves.
What does your soul and spirit need? Mine needs solitude, silence, nature, prayer and journaling. Some may need art or soothing music or inspirational texts.
Not giving your soul what it needs is as jarring as not caring for your body. Both lead to agitation and exhaustion.
If you don’t know what your soul craves, try asking every day this week. Get quiet by breathing 10 times. Then ask or write, "Soul, what do we need today?"
Let us know what insights you get in the comments below.
I wrote before how you need to simplify when you are reaching your capacity. I’ve noticed a struggle when people think it’s not fair because they reach their capacity before other people. We all know people with tons of energy that book and get an unbelievable amount done. And others reach capacity after finishing 3 things on a to do list.
That’s because capacity is personal. It’s based on things like your energy level. I think you can increase your energy level through good self-care, but not everyone is going to have super energy. It depends on how much time you need between tasks, how many breaks you need, how much alone time renews you. And if you try to push through these limits you will be more depleted.
If much of what you do gives you energy and you are passionate about it, you will have more capacity. If you spend most of your day doing energy draining tasks your capacity will be smaller.
What happens when you reach capacity? Your body says enough. Your productivity starts going downward even though you are still working. Mistakes happen more often and your mind gets fuzzy & jumbled. We think powering through is the answer.
But, the real answer is to stop.
If it’s in the middle of the work day, take a 5 min break, especially if you think you don’t have time for it. If you hit a wall every day at 2pm, think about some ways to simplify or change things up so you have time to rest at that time. If 5:30 pm turns you into a yelling, exhausted maniac, how can you prepare ahead of time so that time is easier?
If you feel you have reached capacity before the day even starts, what are some ways you can cut back, spend less, do less, expect less?
Music brings me so much joy. I sing soprano in the church choir and get my music that way. But, I realized I wasn’t spending as much time with music at home. Time for the calendar.
I added times to play the piano, to listen to music and play GarageBand with my daughter, music dates with my husband where we reminisce and play "Who sings this?"
Many times our lives are not filled with things that bring us joy because we don’t consciously create those times.
Instead of automatically turning on the TV, surfing the net or other passive leisure activities, what would your life be like if you added times for joy?
What if you planned for play, hobbies, friends, and self-care?
Your calendar is full of things you’d rather not do. Why not add things you want to do?