I was driving to a new place with my GPS unit. On the way back I thought I’d try a different way. After realizing I wasn’t going to make the next legal u-turn it says, "Calculating Route". It didn’t yell at me or tell me I am a bad, dumb, hopeless person. My GPS simply gave me a different route.
Wouldn’t it be freeing if we had this same self talk to ourselves when things don’t turn out "right" or we think we made a mistake?
Instead of having it mean something about us, we calculate a different route.
Can you think of an example that you have recently beat yourself up about? How about you calculate a new route? What can you do now or in the future that would have different outcomes?