A Question to Help You Make Changes


I didn’t want to wash my face before bed the other day. I didn’t care if I still had mascara on. I was tired.

Then  a question popped into my head. “Do I want to be the kind of person that takes care of herself properly or the kind of person that makes excuses?”

Well that put things into perspective. I washed my face and put on moisturizer before going into bed.

I thought of that question often since then.

“Do I want to be the kind of person that exercises or the kind of person that makes excuses?”

“Do I want to be the kind of person that takes time for spirituality or the kind of person that makes excuses?”

The question allows me to see further in the future. It allows me to see what kind of person I want to be.

Almost all change first begins by how you see yourself and your beliefs about your capabilities. Until you see yourself as the kind of person who exercises or goes to bed on time or dresses nicely it is much harder to cement change.

Sure some of the time I answer, “The kind of person who makes excuses. So there.” Change is never on a perfect upwards trajectory.

Yet by asking the question I am choosing the higher road more often.

Maybe this question will help you as well.




  • Jt says:

    Light bulb moment for me. Thanks.

  • Beth Dargis says:

    So glad to hear that Jt!

  • matty says:

    I loved this post!

  • Beth says:

    Thanks, Matty!

  • Myrna Folkert says:

    Same as with writing….do I actually write, or just make excuses and talk about it, more than doing it? Thanks for this!

  • Beth, I love the question – it’s really a good way to start questioning one’s behaviours.

    Do I want to just do this report, or do I want to be a procrastinator? 😉 Let me get to it!

  • Beth says:

    It’s been really helpful, Marcia. And you won’t believe how much I got done on my decluttering book the past two weeks! Hope you got your report done.

  • Beth Dargis says:

    Exactly Myrna!

  • matty says:

    This is my second comment, but I have to share that this has made such an impact on me… this has been a wonderful week because I have put myself on the spot by asking this question again and again… They say when the student is ready, the teacher will come! Thanks for coming at just the RIGHT time! <3

  • Beth Dargis says:

    I am so happy to hear this, Matty! And by keeping asking the question, you are re-wiring your brain to make it easier to make the choices you want to make in the future.

  • Judy says:

    One of the first comments was “light bulb moment” – I felt the same way as I started to read this…I’ll try to ask myself the question in this manner from this point on and see if I might not just improve 🙂

  • Beth Dargis says:

    Great – hopefully it’s helpful, Judy.

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