In Chapter 18 of Comfort Secrets for Busy Women, Jennifer Louden reminds us that we have a limited amount of energy, time and money to create a life with. So we need to choose. Practice saying I choose to, rather than I should, I have to. And actually choose things you want in your life.
You need to know yourself well enough and be strong enough to recognize are yearnings and at the same time being able to say we don’t always get what we yearn for. Since we are in relationships we may decide to choose something for another person. But it is our choice.
The comfort queen question for this chapter, “What is one issue I am feeling two contradictory impulses about?” and then “What greater whole could embrace both desires?” It doesn’t always have to be either or. Believe their might be another option out there.