During this New Year’s season, I want to say you are enough. Even if you don’t…

  • lose 10 pounds
  • get organized
  • remember every birthday
  • make it to church every week
  • read 52 books
  • exercise an hour a day
  • get completely out of debt
  • find the joy every day

Resolution time is a time when perfectionism sneaks in. Luring us with how much more we would be loved if we did everything right. How much happier we would be if everything was in place perfectly. How much more we would love ourselves if we weighed less.

But you can be loved and happy, just as you are right now.

What if we went from, "What perfection can I strive for?" to "What adventures can I have this year?" And "Who can I love?" "What would make my body feel good?"

If you are looking at your resolutions and feeling really tight, they are probably shoulds. Not what you actually want from this year. Tweak until you eagerly look forward to the future. Lose 10 pounds can be sign up for an African dance class that lights you up. Read 52 books can be immerse yourself in one series of books you love. Get organized could be spend 15 minutes playing with my space to make it more user friendly. Do your goals feel freeing and alive?

And you don’t have to do goals at all. Because you are enough. Right now.


  • Matt Maresca says:

    This reminds me of one of my favourite quotes by Jim Rohn: “Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.” So important. I’ve spent most of my life frustrated that I haven’t accomplished everything I wanted. But you’re always going to want more no matter what you’ve done. It’s the moments we decide to relax and
    enjoy what’s going on that we find what we’ve been looking for all along.

  • dmarie says:

    Excellent post. I recently watched the documentary, “Happy,” and here’s the research shared from the film that I found most helpful:

    People who focus on more intrinsic goals are much more happy than those who focus on extrinsic ones. As humans, extrinsic achievements tend to fade quickly over time and worse, leave us craving more…proving an unsatisfying cycle.

    pursuit of intrinsic goals – lead to increased happiness
    -personal growth
    -desire to help

    pursuit of extrinsic goals – lead to increased levels of depression

    Basically, put effort into exploring your own interests, show people you love them, help others when you can…that builds a meaningful life, a satisfying one. The important people in your life know you love them and they love you – even when you have gained weight, forget to put a birthday card in the mail, or the house isn’t meticulously clean, or you don’t wear fine clothing.

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