As I found out, grief and loss touch us all. So although this is a blog on simplicity, I want to share some of the resources that helped me through my grief when I lost my 18 year old son in 2011. First, to say that I am not through grief. It comes and goes, torrents and retreats.
I found much that is written about grief is wrong. There are not steps. There is no “closure.” There doesn’t need to be. How you grieve is how you grieve, there is no “right” way to do it. Most of these books include the newer research on grieving.
In general, you’ll probably not want to read anything for the first three months or longer, unless it’s something you relate to. I read Lament for a Son.
So if you start one of these books and it isn’t helpful to you at the moment, go ahead and put it down. Pick it up later if you want.
And these were helpful too: community, nature walks, music, yoga, journaling, massage, collaging/art and lots & lots of sleep.
Here’s my post on how to get things done when you are an emotional wreck.