Has your life stopped at a pity party?

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” – William James

It could’ve seen like a bad day yesterday. Among other things I sent out a newsletter to all my subscribers with links leading to nothing. Because of all the activity the autoresponder made on my web host they made my site go down. No warning. One minute I sent out a newsletter. The next I am checking the site and nothing.

I thought it may have to do with a credit card that got a new expiration date this month. So after support sent me to billing, I put in my new card information. Later I got a note saying I was paid till next August.

That’s when they told me about the autoresponder situation. By this time I had quite a bit of email wondering why the links I sent them didn’t work.

I said I was moving systems anyway, which I am. They told me as long as I disabled the autoresponder they would put my site back up.

I emailed back letting them know I couldn’t disable the autoresponder because my site wasn’t up and I couldn’t get access to my control panel.

Finally hours later my site was up.

If I had spent my time whining about my site being down, wallowing in frustration or deciding it was too hard to deal with my site would probably still be down.

However, as David Allen says in his book, “Ready for Anything” when you find yourself faced with challenges you need to do one thing, “Determine the next move.” This is for small crises like a site being down or big setbacks like a bad health diagnosis or a job loss.

“How do you want to be feeling about your situation and what action will bring you closer to that reality?” If we fall into the trap of why me and life stinks we move no closer to where we want to be. Life is what it is and complaining about our fate doesn’t help us.
Where in your life have you allowed self-pity and panic bring your life to a stand still? What is the next small action you can take to move your life in the direction you want it to go?

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