I’ve noticed that when people aren’t confident with their ability to deal with something (technology, paper, cooking) they often start getting flustered immediately. They can’t think because they are going willy-nilly in their head and body.

A technology glitch shows up and they get in a panic. The mind goes fuzzy until they can’t see any solution.

A cooking error happens or they lose a place in a recipe and dishes start getting tossed as the cook becomes a whirling dervish. (Have you seen Worst Cooks in America?)

Surrounded by paper they may shut down instead of making small progress.

"I don’t know what I am doing!!" "I can’t do this!!"

No one likes to be a beginner at a skill. But, being a beginner at a skill does not mean you can’t learn to do it. In high school I was a horrible typist. My teacher said I would never learn and I have very short fingers. Now I type 90 wpm. I was afraid of technology myself. I used my typewriter the first year in college before trying out the computer. I learned and never looked back.

I’m still not the best cook, but I am learning more and more cooking skills.

The first thing to do when you start to feel that "I don’t know what I’m doing" panic is to stop and breathe. Check what thoughts are racing through your brain. Are they helpful? Remind yourself you can learn things. You have learned many skills in your lifetime. Think of a few right now.

Once your mind is calm, can you think of any solutions?

Then do a little research – online or talk to a friend who knows. Take a class.

What I don’t want you to do is sell yourself short. I don’t want you to give up.

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  • Sue Randall

    I needed these words as I start to balance the check book at work! I always have to find things down to the penny and it can get very tedious. I went to secretarial school back in the 70’s, stayed home with the kids for 23 years, and then took a job that did not start off with bookkeeping – and then worked into that. Now I do accounting almost every day – sometimes it’s just too much! This morning I will take the 10 deep breathes and pray and “it will all be good”!

  • Sue Randall

    The picture made me laugh! I haven’t done that personally to spaghetti, but have a few other “mistakes”. Do you know that cummin and cinnamon look a lot alike?? Chili doesn’t taste the same with cinnamon! 🙂 That was over 40 years ago and now I make pretty good chili!

  • aspecialist

    Indeed, it’s regretting to note how we often forget to stop and take a deep breath everytime we find ourselves in the brink of being overwhelmed with fear. As simple as stopping for a while to calm down the mind can already make a difference on how we make decisions. Sometimes, the mind just has to relax a bit so that we’ll regain our senses and we’ll know how to act appropriately. It wouldn’t take much time to take a deep breath, but its effects are long-lasting.

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