Little Longings


Lake Michigan. Beth Dargis


I went to the beach this morning by myself. All week I have been longing to go to the beach. But there didn’t seem to be time and it’s a pain to gather everything needed and the drive is about 25 minutes. This morning I wasn’t going to make any more excuses. I got ready in about 5 minutes and drove to the beach. I walked the beach, did some swimming and read by the channel the boats go down. I really enjoyed myself. I felt renewed.

See, the beach was something my son and I did together. Usually weekly during the summer. My husband and daughter sneeze at the sun and don’t like being hot. This is the first year I decided it’s OK to go to the beach just for myself.

We work hard at our jobs and taking care of friends and family. We will sleep less, over-volunteer and stop what we are doing for a friend. But, we aren’t willing to do a little work for something that will bring us joy.

We all get these little longings and desires for something that we know would make us feel happy. Then we start making the excuses for why it’s too hard to make it happen. Especially if it’s just for us.

I had to get over that guilty resistance and pack my bag. I had to get over my, "I don’t want to make the drive." Once I got there I had the best time. I had energy for the rest of the day and I was in a  good mood.

This week, listen for those little longings and make one happen.


  • Pamela says:

    Dear Beth,
    I am so proud of you for doing something you love to do and encouraging me to do the same. You are an inspiration to many.

  • Maree Crosbie says:

    Beth, I am thrilled that you went to the beach. Go as often as you want to.


  • Nina says:

    Beth, I think those other things that we easily get ourselves to do are things we do to “stay busy”.

    Your story causes me to consider how challenging it is to slow down and not stay busy.

    Seems like there are some pretty decent rewards for slowing down a bit and allowing yourself to enjoy some time.

    Good reminder for many of us- thanks!

  • Beth Dargis says:

    You are right, Nina. This also is a reminder we can slow down. I hope you have time to do that this weekend.

  • Beth Dargis says:

    Why thank you Maree and Pamela

  • Sophie says:

    I love all your posts Beth, thank you for all your help over the years. Because your posts have helped me and I am sure many others….

  • Beth Dargis says:

    That makes me very happy, Sophie.

  • sARA says:


    So glad you made time for yourself. I’m betting your “renewed” feeling came from being in barefoot contact with the sand and water. Check out “earthing” – it’s good for everyone.

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