Make it Easier

08.30.2007

Maybe I am the only one, but tell me I “should” do something, always makes me want to run in the opposite direction. My rebellious side just doesn’t do well with should.

I’ve found that the only way to make lasting changes for myself is to turn a should into a want.

For instance, I should do my daily cleaning routines. But, they weren’t getting done until I realized the routines were a form of self-care. I enjoyed having a more peaceful home. I found I didn’t mind folding laundry -¬ it made me slow down. I bought nice smelling cleaners (Method at Target has some great ones). I had us work together as a family, often with some fun music.

Through these, I turned my should into a want.

Sometimes I will have less energy and say to myself, “I should do today’s cleaning.” Surefire way to get me to plop onto the couch. I have to reframe right away and picture my home lovingly cleaned and having fun cleaning with the kids before I sit down.

Is there any should you can turn into a want?

4 Comments

  • I agree, if I focus on the joy I will receive from a clean, orderly home and I imagine my happiness when I will be able to sit on my chair (now covered in laundry to fold) with a cup of coffee and a magazine, I WANT to clean! I want the result, which will be having a beautiful room to enjoy.

    Come to think of it, I better get folding that laundry…

    Melissa

  • Beth Dargis says:

    That has a built in reward – I love it!

  • Alison says:

    All my shoulds are ‘coulds’. They are all things I ‘could’ do if I wanted to. ‘Should’ implies that guilt is attached to not fulfilling the ‘should’. I chose to ditch guilt long ago. There is no obligation. Only choices.

  • Beth Dargis says:

    That’s a wonderful way to think, Alison!

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