My Son



I miss your light and life, my dearest son.

Jonathan Alexander Dargis, age 18, of Zeeland, died on Thursday, February 24, 2011.

John was a 2010 graduate of Zeeland East High School where he was a member of the robotics team. He was currently attending Grand Rapids Community College.

He is survived by his parents, Jeff and Beth Dargis of Zeeland and his sister, Brea.
Patrick and Josephine Dargis of Fennville
David and Gail Paterik of Detroit
Great grandparents:
William and Peggy Bumford of Farmington Hills
Aunts and uncles:
Cristina Dargis of Westland
James and Tammy Dargis of Sterling Heights
Deborah and Nate Gambino of Dearborn Heights
He is also survived by 8 cousins and many great aunts, uncles and other family and friends.

Funeral services will be 11:00 AM Wednesday, March 2, 2011 at Faith Reformed Church, 220 West Central Avenue in Zeeland. Reverend Jonathan Elgersma will be officiating.

Visitation will be Tuesday from 2-4 and 7-9 PM at Lakeshore Memorial Services, 11939 James Street in Holland. Memorial contributions may be made to The Zeeland High School Robotics Team or Compassion International.

Here is a lovely article on my son:

Holland Sentinel

and here is his Memory Book.

I am taking until April off as far as the tips go, but start working with clients again on Friday. Helping others is the best way to get through grief.



  • Lisa Deeley Smith says:

    Deepest condolences.

  • Robin says:

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • Cindy says:

    Saddened by this news, peace be with you and your family.

  • noora says:

    Beth may Allah give you strength and patience to bear the loss of your son.

  • Rose Adams says:

    At times like these, words don’t come easy. Being thankful for the life of a loved can be some sort of comfort. My thoughts and love go to all touched by this tragedy

  • Amber Pamper says:

    Oh I am so sorry about your son. Praying for you and your family.

  • Karen says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss.

  • Katy Mac says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Sometimes God puts people on this earth for a short time, your son has completed his job. It is hard to understand. My prayers are for you and your family.

  • Nena says:

    My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  • Teresa says:

    So very sorry for your loss Beth,

  • Debby Sue says:

    My husband and I send our deepest regrets. We just had a loss ourselves. May you and your family find peace and comfort.

  • Debbie says:

    Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved son. May the Lord lift you up and comfort you.

  • Rita says:

    Beth — my heartfelt sympathy for unspeakable loss. – ** I am in the process of moving, and among the things i discovered was the calendar of 2008 how to declutter my life. So, with renewed purpose and passion i have rediscovered my journey to simplicity. Thank you for love, light and hope. God bless you in your time of pain and heartache. I wish I could help.

  • Samantha says:

    Your family are in my thoughts and prayers at this sad time.

  • robin says:

    i see the Light and the Love in your sons eyes. and I hear it in your words. you are amazing, and truly represent love and peace . lucky for him to have you for his mom, and you to have him. you are all in my thoughts and prayers. I am wishing you hope and peace and love as you grieve the loss of your beautiful son. robin

  • Wendy says:

    Dearest Beth,
    I am in mourning too and this utterly painful news just ripped another piece out of my heart.
    How brave and caring of you to strive to help others during these early dark days.
    Surely Jon is so proud of his Mom.
    I have been thinking of you and sending you prayers.
    That’s the least I can do after all you’ve done to encourage me.
    Other than this, there are no words…

  • Maria says:

    May the Good Lord Bless you and your family, now and forever. We are so sorry for the loss of passing of your dear son.
    Beth you have been such a blessing to my family with all you have shared!
    You and your family are in our prayers.
    Sincerely, Maria

  • Tiffiany says:

    I just wanted to give you my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your son. I lost my son Feb.1st 2008 after he had a fight with a neighborhood kid he was murdered by said kid. I pray that the LORD eases your pain and heals your heart. Many blessings to you and your family.

  • Sherrie says:

    My heart breaks for you. I can’t imagine the loss you feel as the love for a child is so deep in a mothers soul.

    May God grant you peace and healing.

  • Tricia says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you. I used to live in Kalamazoo and so I know something like this must be a shock for the community as well. I can’t imagine your pain, but I do pray God will hold you in His hands through it all and be your comfort.

  • Pattie says:

    Dear Beth and family,

    This was shocking to read. My heart goes out to you and yours! I am so sorry for your unimaginable loss. Please know that my prayers are with you.
    Sorry, I just read this today on 3/28 as I am dealing with my mother’s cancer and upcoming death.
    May you find comfort in the love of family and friends and that you will see Jonathan again one day.

    With deepest sympathy,

  • Bron says:


    I am so very sorry to learn of your Jonathan’s horrible death. I was in the hospital for nearly two months and am just going thru emails, thus my tardiness in responding. You and your family will be in my prayers–and may the Lord bless you and keep you, and give you peace.

    with love in Christ,

  • Yolanda Chumney says:

    I just found out about your loss and I feel so sad for you & your family! What a horrible tragedy! I’ll pray for you and your family!
    Many hugs!

  • Linda says:

    I don’t really remember how I found your blog, and I don’t follow closely. I do get your e-mails, and try to read them when I have time.

    I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you are going through right now. I hope that you find a peace that passes understanding. You will be in my prayers.

  • Tracy Barkley, RMT says:

    I am sorry for all you have been through and all you have to go through. It doesn’t seem fair at all Beth. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. We your followers, Understand you need to take the amount of you time you do.

    Take care of your self first and foremost and hold your family close. We are not going anywhere, we will be right where you left us… At the end of your power cord

    God Bless you and your family during this horrible time

    Tracy Barkley,RMT – ON Canada

  • Beth says:

    Thanks everyone!

  • Cathie Martin says:

    Beth, I so enjoy your tips and newsletters, but, had not read about your loss. Please accept my sympanthy. As you know, words cannot express the grief and loss you must be feeling. You are in my prayers.

  • Betty Perryman says:

    Dearest Beth:
    Even a Mother who has experienced such a loss can never turely know what is being experienced by another grieving Mom. I can only say that when I lost my girls (8 and 4, May 10, 1984)I was numb for a very long time. I have waited to express my condolenses to you and your family for this reason. I know you are a family of great faith and I am sure you are relying on this faith as you navigate your loss. I hope you find comfort from each other and in Gods love. I offer my support “anytime”. Sincerely, Betty

  • Kathy Sullivan says:

    Dear Beth:
    I am so sorry for you and your family. None of us can ever know how hard this is. My thoughts are with you.
    Sincerely, Kathy

  • Lyn says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a child is the hardest loss in the world to go through. As parents we do not expect to lose our children before our time on earth is done. My heart goes out to you. I lost my only child, and can understand your pain. I pray you are lifted up every day in love, support, and I send you prayers.

  • Beth says:

    Thank you Lyn and everyone else expressing sympathy. I have felt very cared for.

  • Sharla Harris says:

    So sorry for your loss..I lost Lucas Carter Harris April 3 2004..he was just have to go thru it!

  • Beth says:

    Hi Sharla, so sorry to hear you had to go through loss as well.

  • Cathy says:

    I am so sorry for your loss and for the others who have lost their children as well. I cannot imagine the pain you have had and what you must continue to endure. xoxo

  • Nancy says:

    Your son looked like a lovely person. I don’t know how you cope with a loss so huge. Thinking of you and your family today and remembering to hug those close to me a bit tighter, keep well and remember what a lovely gift your son’s life was.

  • Susan Tucker says:

    I will be thinking of you Beth! Anniversaries are tough! 🙁

  • Beth says:

    Thanks Susan!

  • Susan Tucker says:

    My heart goes out to you. I can’t imagine…Thinking of you on this anniversary. Much love and peace to you and your family.

  • Beth Dargis says:

    Thanks Susan!

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