Taking Care of Yourself is Selfish

Is that what you believe? Some of you may have a hard time giving yourself retreats or nurturing time. Often it is because of your ingrained beliefs. I know I had a hard time that way (still do sometimes). The good news is that you get to choose new beliefs if you want.

Beliefs that can get in the way of self care:

  1. I am not important enough.
  2. I must take care of everyone else.
  3. It is selfish to take care of myself.
  4. I don’t have time to take care of myself.
  5. To be a good person I always have to put other’s needs above myself.
  6. We always have to please others.
  7. All conflict is bad.
  8. I am responsible for the feelings of others.
  9. I have to prove myself worthy of love by giving, giving, giving.
  10. Taking time for myself is unproductive and lazy.
  11. If I have to ask for time or help I am inadequate.
  12. If I don’t do it, no one will.


Beliefs that allow self care:

  1. It is not all right to neglect my needs.
  2. It is not up to me to satisfy the needs of everyone I come in contact with and not myself.
  3. Scheduling time for myself is imperative.
  4. Caring for myself allows me to better care for others.
  5. Sleep is necessary for a good life.
  6. My body is a temple and needs to be taken care of.
  7. I want to give my body and soul the best.
  8. Movement is fun and healthy.
  9. I am self aware and self caring.
  10. Caring for myself is being a good role models for family and friends.
  11. Everyone is responsible for their own feelings.
  12. What good am I to the people I care for if I am grumpy, tired, ill or stressed?

The people that take care of themselves have made self care a priority. They have the belief that it is important for them to be their best. If you aren’t making the time, it may be more of a belief problem not a time problem.

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