Try on freedom instead of improvement
How would your life be different if you didn’t need to change? Or keep up? Or improve?
How much simpler would it be?
When I look over the years, there have been hundreds of hours spent reading self-help books and blogs, taking courses, doing one self-improvement project after another, most not completed.
I get bored and move on.
I truly love learning and improving, but some times in your life it’s more important to relax and feel self-compassion.
We can’t constantly be trying to improve ourselves. We grow tired and feel an overcast of self-doubt and guilt covering our days. We are never enough. We didn’t complete enough. Our morning routines were not perfect. Our self-care was non-existent today. We ate a donut instead of green smoothie.
We are putting so much pressure on ourselves to continue to do better each day and all the time. Then come down on ourselves when we don’t.
But, life is in cycles. Sometimes you will have higher energy. During early motherhood you barely have enough to function, much less be “perfect mom.” Certain days, life throws obstacles your way. It’s rare an ideal day comes around anyway.
I see the overwhelmed hanging on so tightly they are completely wound up. It’s hard to breathe or relax – something might not go well.
Can you let go a bit? Have a whole month without a self-improvement project or non-fiction book? Trying on self-compassion instead of self-judgement?
Taking life as it comes without resistance or manically trying to fix it.
Floating, not grabbing. Breathing.
Adding space to be, where it was crammed with information on how to do it better.
Feel free to do it your way. Checking in with yourself and your God moment by moment.