What To Ask When Plans Fall Through


I worked Sunday after church so my daughter and I could go to the beach, Monday. She rarely has weekends off so I usually see her during the week.

I got the beach bag ready. On Saturday we had bought yellow squash, green beans and corn at the Farmer’s Market for lunch. I was really looking forward to beach day.

Late Sunday night she called and said she couldn’t go to the beach after all.

I spent a few minutes disappointed – then asked my usual question when things don’t go as planned.

"What’s good about this?"

Since I did work on the weekend, Monday would be a perfect day to get outstanding items done from my to do list. Those things I want to do, but are a lower priority so I haven’t completed them yet. Things like clean up my website sidebar, mop the floor and make some calls.

I also asked, "How can I get part of what I want?"

I decided to get up early and walk along the beach at Lake Michigan. Afterwards, I sat on a bench to write and have quiet time. I wrote this in a notebook while watching boats and seagulls.

In July, my husband and I went to Drummond Island in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. I wanted to figure out whether he wanted to go alone so he could do more bouncing around in the Jeep than I would like or if he wanted company.

So I told him I would be fine either way. I thought of the good in both situations. If my husband left without me, I would stay home, do a little retreat and lots of reading. If we went together, we would have a connecting time in nature. Once he saw I was o.k. either way, he finally admitted he wanted me to come with as it’s a long Jeep ride alone. We had a wonderful time.

Each time my husband switched shifts, I would ask what is good about this shift. (And there were a lot of shift changes for many years.)

Next time your plans fall through or change, try asking, "What’s good about this?"


Pix by Jeff Dargis, Drummond Island





  • Twinkle says:

    Thank you for the reminder. WE’ve been through so much in the past couple of years and everytime I think things are finally getting better and continuing…The Universe says “not yet”. So, “What’s good about this?” is a great way to think and be.

  • Nancy says:

    This is a nice way to embrace change and it’s a lot less crazy-making as well.

    Glad you had a chance to go on vacation up near Drummond. That’s such a beautiful place. We go up there every year for the Perseid meteor showers. Taking time away in nature is always so healing.

  • Beth Dargis says:


    That is a great idea going up for the meteor showers, Nancy!

  • Beth Dargis says:

    I love this – when the Universe says Not Yet and we have to deal with what we may not think is the ideal. But, we can see what’s good about this? Hope you are able to find the good, Twinkle!

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