One of the easiest excuses not to change is, “That’s just how I am.” Where is what you consider your identity, holding you back? Has, “I am lazy” or “I am disorganized” become so ingrained that you can’t move forward?
Anytime you try to learn a new habit, you excuse yourself when it doesn’t happen. “Well, I’m just not an early riser.” “You know me, messy, messy, messy.”
In many cases with clients, I help them see these new habits as skills to practice instead of part of personality. It’s a big shift that allows them to see the hope of changing.
“I am a clutterbug,” becomes “I can learn the skills to declutter.” “I am always late,” becomes “I want to be a person that respects other people’s time so I set my timer to leave 10 minutes early.”
Notice where you are holding onto an identity you no longer need.
Pix by Sharon & Nikki McCutcheon