As I found out, grief and loss touch us all. So although this is a blog on simplicity, I want to share some of the resources that helped me through my grief when I lost my 18 year old son in 2011. First, to say that I am not through grief. It comes and goes, torrents and retreats.

I found much that is written about grief is wrong. There are not steps. There is no "closure." There doesn’t need to be. How you grieve is how you grieve, there is no "right" way to do it. Most of these books include the newer research on grieving.

In general, you’ll probably not want to read anything for the first three months or longer, unless it’s something you relate to. I read Lament for a Son.

So if you start one of these books and it isn’t helpful to you at the moment, go ahead and put it down. Pick it up later if you want.

Resources

Newsletter and Wholehearted Living After Loss Group by Cath Duncan.

 

I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss

Healing Through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair

Back to Life: Getting Past Your Past with Resilience, Strength, and Optimism

Glad No Matter What: Transforming Loss and Change into Gift and Opportunity

And these were helpful too: community, nature walks, music, yoga, journaling, massage, collaging/art and lots & lots of sleep.

Here’s my post on how to get things done when you are an emotional wreck.

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4 comments

  • Allison

    Great list of resources. I would add for children (the most frequent request I receive on grief) is the book “The Falling of Freddy the Leaf” by Leo Buscalgia. I love this book and have used it often with children. I think it does a good job getting the message on their level.

  • ann withrow

    Thank you , Beth. You are an amazing person. Just had my mother’s funeral a few days ago. She was 99 years old and if I live as long as she did, it will be too long before I see her again. I’m so thankful to have seen this information you gave us. ann

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