I was at a family dinner one weekend. Some of my relatives were having a hard time figuring out what I do.

“People pay you to help them finish their project?” “Don’t you just say Just Do It?”

I come from a family of people that, “Just do it.”

I am not one of them. I explained that not everyone can just do it. Some people are like me, and we need to get into good mindsets and set up systems so it’s easier to do.

A lot of us have more limited energy, so we need to focus. And sometimes support in that.

Some of us procrastinated and never finish anything without accountability. I always have an accountability partner and enjoy being other people’s accountability.

I had to learn skills because I am more of an imaginative flake then a self-motivated doer.

I figured others might want to learn these skills with gentle encouragement.

People say they get so much more done in one of my classes or in coaching because of the accountability, new skills and the self-compassion I teach.

So to all of you that can’t, “Just Do It,” you are not alone. We are just wired differently.

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If you need some encouragement and support with decluttering, my most popular class, the Declutter Group starts January 20, 2020.

In our time class yesterday one of the things we talked about was checking in with the bigger picture when you do your work.

Often we procrastinate, get off task or start something new because we haven’t set ourselves up for the work.

In order to get motivated, it helps to think of why you are doing this task. When we come to a task as this is something I should do or I have no choice in doing, it saps our motivation.

When you "have to" do dishes, they may spend the night in the sink. But, what if before you started you thought of the bright, sparkly kitchen? Or clean bowls for breakfast? Or not having to clean stuck on dishes? We don’t clean because we have to. We clean because of what we want the house to feel like.

How about a task your boss gives you that you really don’t want to do. How will that task help the company? Or what character traits can you enhance in yourself by doing the work? Who are you helping with this task?

When you are pulling weeds, what are you really doing? Making a place beautiful or making room for fresh vegetables to grow.

If you are stuck in the "I don’t wannas" today, look to the big picture, see your choice, and find the purpose.

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Photo by Clownfish

I looked at the declutter calendar. “Declutter under the bathroom sink.” I remember when those words would have inspired terror.

But, this time I opened up the cabinet to find a wrapper to get thrown out and a jar of texturizing cream which was too thick for my fine hair. That was it. 2 minutes and done.

And it can be that way for you as well. Every time you declutter, it gets easier. Every time you say no, it gets easier.

I saw a quote the other day, something like, “If you don’t want to feel like you are always starting over, don’t quit.”

Even if it’s only 5 minutes, keep going. It will get easier.

(Make it even easier with a motivational group.)